- Who: Sarah Shahi
- What: Actress
- Where: Instagram
I don’t believe in coincidence.
I was listening to this really great talk between Oprah and Wayne Dyer. Wayne Dyer was talking about how there is no such thing as a coincidence.
You post a lot of positive messages on social media and your spirit just seems to beam positivity and light! You are also very much in tune and open about your beliefs. Can you share a time where you had an experience that you consider to be a “spiritual” type of lesson? This can be related to your career or personal life (whatever you feel comfortable discussing). Some experiences aren’t always fun as we know, but they help us to continuously grow and evolve.
I don’t believe in coincidence. I was listening to this really great talk between Oprah and Wayne Dyer. Wayne Dyer was talking about how there is no such thing as a coincidence. The word itself started out as a mathematical term meaning to coincide. When two lines coincide, they form an angle. We’ve taken something that means when two things happen on purpose to create something and we’ve redesigned at as two things that happen accidentally to create something. With that said, I think there is a reason for everything.
The other thing that I’ve learned through my journeys, good or bad, losing people, whether it’s death related or people that leave your life because of a bad fight or however that is--in my opinion, our souls only purpose is to grow. That’s the only thing that is sort of definite in this life is change. We are going to change. Our soul's highest purpose is to evolve. I believe that we sometimes attract certain situations to us to stimulate that evolvement and that growth. With anything wrong that has ever happened to me, whether it has been a relationship, a work situation, or the loss of my dad, it was definitely something that looking back I can say, “oh wow, I grew from that in a way that I wouldn’t have had that not happened.” The kind of grace, humility, or lessons learned from that situation I would have never learned if I had not drawn from that horrible situation to me as awful as that sounds. When you look at it from that perspective, it helps you say, “Oh, I get it. Life is a game.”
When life is up and high, you have to laugh as much as you can laugh. When life goes down, sometimes the only way to get back up is to cry. You have to cry as hard as you can, and that’s okay. Just be forgiving of yourself and the different things that you go through. I think we’re so obsessed with this idea of being happy all the time. It’s a great thing to be, but I think sometimes we have to allow ourselves to feel the pain because that’s the only way we can feel better. In between those ups and downs, there is a whole lot of boring. You have to find something to celebrate every day in that “boring” (laughs) because as that saying goes, “this too shall pass” and the next thing you know you’re back on that roller coaster again.
We all face times when we are discouraged especially in an industry like this. What was your experience like when you first started out in Hollywood? What are some things you wish you knew going into it? What would you like to tell others who are pursuing this career path?
There are a few different things. I feel like I’m at the very beginning of my education in some ways. I’m still searching, and there’s a lot of things that I want to do that I feel like I haven’t done. As cliche as it sounds, just be yourself. Hollywood is tough because everyone is trying to fit into the flavor of the moment. You’re always trying to change yourself and fit into someone else’s idea of what you should be. The thing that makes us unique and makes us stand out is the stuff that makes us different. Now that I’m in my thirties, I can understand that differently whereas I didn’t before. I think we should embrace what makes us different. I believe that is important to tell somebody when they are starting out. You might feel like you need to be the next Lilly Collins or Jennifer Lawrence, but how about you just be you? That Dr. Seuss saying says it perfectly, “Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You."
I also realized something about the audition process. I treat every audition as if it’s a job. I go in with the idea that I’m going to shoot something. When you’re in the room, those are your five minutes. In my opinion, don’t leave until you do what you want to do in that room. Don’t leave thinking, “oh man, I should have done this or that.” Take those chances because that is your soul speaking to you. You should honor those little voices as much as you can.
What is your definition of empowerment? How do you think people can practice this more in their daily lives? This goes for both women and men.
I think my definition of empowerment is to walk towards your fear no matter what that looks like. It doesn’t matter if it is a professional situation or a personal situation. I think that is impossible to go through life without any kind of fear or insecurities. To be able to say, “I’m in charge,” is power. Even though you may feel these things, you say “no, fuck it, I’m going to walk towards this fear, and I’m going to handle this situation anyway.” To be able to feel that free with yourself and not get in your own way.
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