Trust your intuition
For me, my intuition is the strongest when it concerns my kids. I think it is a chemical thing that’s built in us as mothers because it is our job to keep them alive; when something is not right our mother’s intuition kicks in very powerfully. An example I could give is when my kids had some allergies. I knew a particular food is making my kid sick and the doctor continuously said: “no this needs to be a part of his diet.”
It happened when they were young infants I removed that particular food from my son's diet, and he got better. My older son had eczema and some other issues. There were a couple of things that I knew were “off.” Like, I knew my son should not have dairy, so I stopped him from drinking it regardless of what the doctor said to me. Most people do exactly what their doctor says, but there was something in me telling me that “no this is making your son sick,” and so I followed my intuition and I was right.
The more you follow your intuition, and it is correct, the stronger your intuition becomes. It is to the point where I am almost never wrong. If I feel something strongly intuitively-I listen to myself all the time, I have a 99% accuracy on calling things based on my intuition.
Defeating the bully & overcoming negativity
I think there have been several times I felt bullied by the press or by people in general. People like to twist my narrative and use it against me. I felt sort of powerless in expressing myself no matter how hard I tried to be genuine or to be who I was. It was always misconstrued or changed to garner more drama and attention through tabloid media and so on. I felt discouraged in that way because I felt like I do not know how to be or live in this industry and have to do interviews. That is a part of what we do when every time I open my mouth no matter how positive my intentions are “it becomes something scandalous or something negative” and then I get torn apart for it.
I think that it took a lot of “soul-searching,” but I had to be able to maintain a bird’s eye view to get clarity and to have some objectivity so that you can step away from it and you do not personalize it so much. You start to look at things that seem like obstacles or blocks or attacks as something you have brought to yourself as lessons-lessons that your ego and personality needs to learn. When you look at it that way, it removes the victimhood from a lot of this, and it then gives you your power back because you no longer feel like someone is doing something to you. You realize that you have brought this to yourself for a reason and that it is going to have a positive outcome because now your perspective has changed.
“You are free.”
These words are the screensaver on my phone. In my case mainly, fame and a lot of the stuff that goes on in this industry can make you feel tamed or caged. You can feel tamed to a negative self-abusive narrative that runs in your head especially if you have self-image issues or all of those things where we feel like we are submissive to something that hurts us, makes us unhappy, or something that we cannot get away from that is within ourselves. Seeing that quote every day reminds me that “I am free” and it is just about being conscious of that. That is all it takes-my circumstances do not need to change only my consciousness.